[TW: appropriation of abuse and trauma]
BREAKING NEWS FROM RADFEM MEDIA DESK: any woman who enjoys sex with a man is suffering from Stockholm Syndrome.
what the fuck is this
via lavenderlabia (originally lavenderlabia)
(tw: rape)
I’m mostly behind this, but I can’t help but want to yell WELL LET’S JUST GIVE YOU ALL COOKIES, THEN. It’s just sad to me that we need ad campaigns like this to tell men how to be decent human beings (and then the Nice Guys jump in and want to be recognized and rewarded for behavior that should simply be the norm).
^^ yep, yep.
I kind of agree, but I think that it needs to start here. Having a campaign that says “always know your route home” or “don’t get in a taxi alone” is victim blaming and unproductive. The only way we’re going to have successful rape prevention campaigns is if we change the perception of what rape actually is (ie. not always a drunk girl getting pulled into an alleyway by a stranger) and how it’s not solely up to girls to ‘make sure they don’t get raped’.
Society doesn’t tell guys that if a girl is drunk, maybe don’t try and sleep with her. It doesn’t tell guys that the girls walking home after a night out probably doesn’t find cat calling attractive but actually quite scary.
It’s fucking irritating to give guys props for being decent, but with these kinds of campaigns there’s not a great lot of alternative. Although, this campaign is pretty great:
via espill (originally yellowcars)
(TW: Misogynist slur, racism)Everyone is wrong but me: Support http://wrongaudience.tumblr.com/
Apparently a lot of people have been freaking the fuck out because my friend Chester (http://wrongaudience.tumblr.com/) because he said “If you don’t buy Young Avengers a 7 ft tall black man will rape you in the night.”
I guess a lot of people were searching for the tag “rape” so they could…
Actually, a lot of rape survivors track the rape tag to vent about our experiences, share techniques for coping and otherwise try to heal.
Making a racist misandrist rape joke has nothing to do with discourse about rape but instead is just an example of how permissible you and your friend find rape and racism and sexism.
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Yeah. I don’t understand how making rape jokes or saying “if you don’t buy __ a 7ft tall black man will rape you in the night” = reasonable discussion about rape.
also lol feminazis.
via thefremen (originally everyoneswrongbutme)
(TW: Rape, violence)The rape of men
Dying of shame: a Congolese male rape victim, currently resident in Uganda. This man’s wife has left him, as she was unable to accept what happened. He attempted suicide at the end of last year. Photograph: Will Storr for the Observer.
Of all the secrets of war, there is one that is so well kept that it exists mostly as a rumour. It is usually denied by the perpetrator and his victim. Sexual violence is one of the most horrific weapons of war, an instrument of terror used against women. Yet huge numbers of men are also victims.
In Uganda, survivors are at risk of arrest by police, as they are likely to assume that they’re gay – a crime in this country and in 38 of the 53 African nations. They will probably be ostracised by friends, rejected by family and turned away by the UN and the myriad international NGOs that are equipped, trained and ready to help women. They are wounded, isolated and in danger. In the words of Owiny: “They are despised.”
Read the rest of the article here: The rape of men
I’ve reblogged this before, don’t care. Seriously difficult article to read.
via thefremen (originally kolehiyoboy)
TW FOR SEXISM, RACISM, HETEROSEXISM, MISOGYNY, VIOLENCE, RAPE CULTURE
Original Title: That awkward moment when people on Tumblr get pissed off at Tyler The Creator’s misogynistic lyrics, but treat Eminem as if he’s a god.
I’m not condoning either of them, but let’s get serious people.
“But I ain’t got no weed, no phillies, or no papers. Plus I’m a rapist and a repeated prison escapist.”
“All I wanted to do was rape the b***h and snatch her purse. Now I wanna kill her.”
“I’ma pull you to this bullet, and put it through you. Shut up slut, you’re causing too much chaos. Just bend over and take it like a slut, OK Ma? “Oh, now he’s raping his own mother, abusing a whore, snorting coke, and we gave him the Rolling Stone cover?”
“You want me to fix up lyrics while the President gets his dick sucked? Fuck that, take drugs, rape sluts. Make fun of gay clubs, men who wear make-up.”
“I won’t rape all the Pussycat Dolls. Nicole, you kiddin’? I’ll pee on Rihanna, see man I’ll do what I wanna.”
Hell of a guy right?
Shall we also take a look at the accolades Eminem has received also, besides a measly Best New Artist Award from a network that’s focus is ignorant guidos, awkwardness, and teenage whores? All of this anger is being directed at the young black kid because?
i didn’t know eminem was this bad. then again i never liked him, so i never listened to him in depth. but this is my point, people. this is why some Black people get pissed off when you wanna demonize tyler but don’t say shit about eminem.
prove that it’s not about race, and condemn them both.
via theoceanandthesky (originally nooriginalityinthisname-)
[TW: Rape culture, violence, misogyny] I am so fucking tired of people in the media using rape and misogyny for lulz and everyone else defending it as ‘just a joke’ or ‘part of the art’ or whatever else.
Whether it’s the rape filled lyrics of this Tyler the Creator guy, or that asshole Frankie Boyle and his ‘Katie Price goes out with a muscular dude to stop her developmentally disabled child from raping her’ “joke”, it’s all the same. Raping, beating, and murdering women is hilarious. If you got a problem with it, it’s because you ‘can’t take a joke’ or ‘don’t get the irony’.
We’ve got programs like South Park saying that Indiana Jones was ‘raped’ and showing actual rape scenes just because the creators didn’t like the new movie. We’ve got Family Guy’s “Peter gets ‘raped’ by his doctor but actually it’s a prostate exam” episode that mocks how survivors act post-rape. There’s a song called Date Rape by Sublime that is just vile (seriously, search the lyrics at your peril) that apparently is meant to be anti-rape but seriously. It’s just fucked up.
Maybe I don’t wanna get the joke. Maybe I don’t wanna see the ‘art’ in saying shit like “Beat your bitch in her mouth just for talkin’ shit”. Maybe I don’t wanna be the kind of person who thinks rape and misogyny and violence against women is something that is totes cool to make light of or use for some attempt to seem edgy by some jackass ‘comedian’ or some asshole musician. You can write edgy, important songs without the domestic abuse lyrics and you can make awesome jokes without using rape. It’s not that hard. What is hard is living as a survivor in a world where if I turn on the radio or the TV, there’s a much to high chance of hearing my experience made fun of or used as a punchline.
This, so much. That Frankie Boyle joke was fucking vile. I hate that man and his smug fucking face. I hated him on Mock The Week and his sketch show was shit. Offensive but also just total. shit.
via inflateablefilth (originally inflateablefilth)
Women do have a certain amount of responsibility when it comes to rape. For one, when they’re out with some friends at a bar for a few drinks, now she wants to go home, which may only be a few blocks away, what does she do? Walk home and risk getting snatched by a group of guys? Call a cab? Ask a friend to take her home? If she chose the latter, than she’s being responsible. Society isn’t telling women to not get raped or blaming them because they have, society is telling them to not put themselves in a situation which is very easy to avoid.
Not only that, but to say that society doesn’t teach “Don’t rape” is stupid. Rapists are hated, shunned, castigated, imprisoned and looked down upon by pretty much the whole of society. There are movies out there where the protagonists are hitmen, mafiosos, even serial killers—but when’s the last time you saw a movie where a rapist was the hero? There is nothing about our culture that sends the message to anyone that it’s okay to be a rapist.
Um, surely the problem is precisely the fact that we live in a society where a person is supposed to take these precautions to avoid being raped?? I should not have to avoid being raped. I should be able to feel safe going out and knowing that there are not people who think it’s okay to rape me.
This doesn’t mean that we think people are told ‘it’s okay to be a rapist’. But we live in a society where there are ‘factors’ and ‘certain situations’ where a person doesn’t seem to be held accountable for raping another person. If they were drunk, if they were wearing something revealing, if they have casual sex. These things shouldn’t matter. A person is not raped because they were drunk or wearing a short skirt - they get raped because somebody chose to rape them.
“Rapists are hated, shunned, castigated, imprisoned and looked down upon by pretty much the whole of society.” Erm, good? In a world where 15 out of 16 rapists are never convicted of anything, obviously there is NOT enough hatred or shame placed upon rapists. This isn’t even counting how many people have been too afraid - or ashamed - to prosecute their attackers. People feel ashamed of something that is never their fault and they should NEVER feel ashamed about.
Saying they ‘could be more careful’ is not fucking helpful. This just perpetuates the idea that when a person is raped they should feel guilty, because they were too ‘stupid’ or too careless. It’s fucking bullshit. Victim blamers can go fuck themselves.
via anticapitalist (originally diet-coke-and-mentos)
Another reason why most cis, straight men, see being hit on as flattering, not threatening. Because they have every reason to expect their “no” to be respected, they see being hit on all the time as having your pick of potential partners; I imagine very few of them really understand the Schrödinger’s rapist phenomenon, and they don’t understand why it can be so difficult to distinguish between an overture that will go nowhere and a potential rape threat, because they have never had reason to suspect the latter.
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Libractivist (from the comments)
Shakesville: Feminism 101: Helpful Hints for Dudes, Part 6
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via entropyforever (originally bagleworm)
What I hate about being a girl:
- Periods
- Period cramps
- Sore tits
- Mood swings
- Picking out outfits for the day
- Styling hair after showering
- Having a hard time running cause of your tits
- Making sure you don’t get pregnant
- Carrying the baby
- Being called a bitch, whore, hoe for no apparent reason
- Make sure you don’t get raped
- Having pedophiles hit on you
- Oh, and fancying the fuck out of someone that doesn’t know you exist on the earth.
Okay, why are these two just ones we should ‘put up with’ because we’re girls? Has nobody else who reblogged these noticed that it’s a little fucking weird 42,000 girls can casually say that one of the shitty things about being a girl is ‘making sure I don’t get raped’? More importantly, why do people think that it’s okay to live in a world where girls feel like they have to walk around protecting themselves and being cautious so they don’t get raped? Or that we get called derogatory names for no apparent reason? And not in the same way men get it, either. Women and people who identify as female are constantly called names that mean they’re either a) not really humans or b) not worthy of respect because of their sex life. This is not cool! Fear of rape and being called disgusting things should not come under the umbrella of ‘shitty things about being a girl’!
via greysalvation (originally trinnnnnixd)
Rape laws only exist because of male vanity. Men don’t want to think of themselves as filthy stinking rapists; they prefer to imagine that they’re James Bond, idealized versions of themselves as noble protectors of their females’ honor, so deeply imbued with charisma and magnetism that women voluntarily acquiesce to them. So, to distance themselves from rape, dude culture invented some special circumstances — the most non-negotiable of which is that the victim must be of absolutely unimpeachable saintliness in word, deed, and costume, and be willing to undergo no small quantity of public humiliation — under which only the most deviant, dissipated pieces of human filth may occasionally be deemed by the courts to have crossed that vague line between consensual boinking and sexual assault.
With this ingenious victim-blaming system, only the occasional debased douchebag is a rapist. Convicting an insensate monster every once in a while leaves the rest of Dude Nation free to not be “that guy,” and to enjoy with impunity their birthright as frat boys, pimps, rakes, ladies’ men, Great Seducers, predators, bosses, college advisers, boyfriends, husbands, fathers, heads of international monetary funds, and creepy uncles.
- Twisty (via octagon-surgeon)
via saturniinae (originally octagon-surgeon)
